Are there any rules when fighting with a loved one? How low can we go before it becomes 'hitting below the belt' and how far should we go in order to make a point, win the fight or best a loved one?
I'm sure each one of us has had an unpleasant epsiode with a loved one at some point and for me it's no different.
I had an unpleasant exchange with a friend I've known for about 5 years a few days ago and I decided to call it quits because frankly I was tired of having the same conversation that led to the same argument which in turn led to the most unpleasant fights. The negative energy of a well meaning friend had left a rancid taste so strong in my mouth that all the rationalization couldn no longer wash away.
I basically cut this friend off to preserve memories of some of the good times we had.
Today I started the day excited and fulfilled and happy to be alive. I had and still have so much to be thankful for. Yet one conversation with one of my dearest and best about vacations and visitations left me feeling blue and frustrated. I get frustrated when people annoy me because I'm a firm believer in the principle of, 'if you let people annoy you; you let them control you' & 'you control your own happiness and sadness'
While our little tiff was very civilized and short...it left me wondering just how much power our loved ones have over us. Strangers and acquaintances rarely, if ever truly make me furious regardless of what tom foolery they may choose to indulge in...yet a few well chosen barbs from a loved one can send me careening for the edge.
How safe is it to show yourself to anyone undisguised? Is opening your heart and lifting people into it not as high risk (probably more high risk) than unprotected sex? Can we ever be certain that a loved one will not jab us where it hurts the most in a moment of anger?
I'm working my way through these issues....your thoughts and contributions are most welcome.
5 comments:
How well meaning was your friend that he left you feeling like that and not wanting to talk to him again?
As I've gotten older I have come to the realisation that what may once have been the most compatible of frienships may not necessarily always be... People sometimes grow in different directions and develop different viewpoints... You can find yourself wondering why you even became friends with someone who was once your bestie but now you can't relate to them at all...
I guess its just part of life, and realising when u need to let someone go is all part of that... And preserving sanity!
@Ms Beauty Soul: I couldn't have said it better myself. You are absolutely right...ps your blog is awesome too :-)
its a hard one to call. while relationships are active we cant or dont want to see them end, but time tells us a different story.
interestingly i guess everyone has a story to tell/share
Thank you my dear! For some reason I can't figure out how to keep in line with the threaded comments on the BB... But nevertheless imma post this lol
Nice write up..
I think you're a very good writer. I like reading your blogs.
Did you fight with someone i know?
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